How to Stick to a New Year’s Resolution
December 31st, 2011 // 1:54 am @ marla
When a client wants me to help them stick to a New Year’s Resolution, I give them these 5 tips:
1. Be clear on what you want. For example, if you want to lose weight, how much weight do you want to lose? Is it 5 , 15, or 20 pounds or more? Be realistic and as detailed as possible on what you want to achieve, and then write it down. There is something dynamic about the act of putting your goals on paper and reading them aloud.
2. Surround yourself around people who are supportive. There are some friends who like to sabotage your success, so it’s very important to surround yourself around people who will help you attain your goal and not sway you off course. It would be helpful to be around those who have already attained what you are are striving to accomplish.
3. Be committed. How badly do you want your goal? The stronger your intention of getting what you want will be the catalyst of how fast you can achieve your New Year’s Resolution. Remind yourself of how bad you want it. Leave yourself little post-its in your car, on your desk, and even on the refrigerator. You can even give yourself a “trigger” word to help you stay motivated. I had a client who would wear a rubber band and whenever she wanted to smoke a cigarette, she would snap it and say, “I choose to be healthy” to remind herself how unhealthy smoking was for her. She quit smoking within 3 months.
4. Use your subconscious mind to assist you in getting what you want. Your subconscious mind is very powerful, so try hypnosis or meditation to get yourself in the right frame of mind to really stick to your commitment. Visualizing yourself already attaining your goal is very effective too. “If you can see it, you can achieve it.”
5. Be flexible and ready to tweak your plan to make it work for you. You might to have to alter your strategy if something isn’t working. Don’t give up, just be ready to switch to plan “B” if you find that your original plan isn’t successful. Remember the saying,’ If at first you don’t succeed, try, try and try again until you do.”
Happy New Year!
Dr. Marla
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Healthy relationships: the ultimate supplement?
October 23rd, 2011 // 5:35 pm @ marla
We are all concerned with taking good care of ourselves, eating healthy and choosing vitamins and supplements that do our body good. We will spend extra money on organic foods and maybe even go out of our way to make fresh meals for our families. But there is a something that we forget to take into consideration regarding our health. It’s our relationships.
Humans are highly social. We’re not designed to be solitary or live in isolation. In fact, our society considers solitary confinement as the ultimate punishment. But we forget just how important our relationships are. Our connection to others can stimulate our brains. When we interact with others it gives us a feeling of belonging, and this is vital for good mental health. When we have the opportunity to express ourselves to others and be able to hear other viewpoints in regards to a variety of circumstances, we are able to raise our consciousness to a higher level. Not only is this how we learn, but it also gives way to spiritual growth.
Studies have shown that those who are mentally healthy have solid meaningful relationships and a strong support group that they interact with on a regular basis. I hope you have noticed that I have mentioned healthy relationships in this article. I am not talking about controlling, manipulative, domineering, or abusive relationships. These are toxic and raise big red flags regarding your mental health. I am talking about healthy and supportive relationships that are positive and stable.
There are ways to start making new friends and begin socializing with the right type of people by volunteering, joining a club, or getting involved in your local community. You can reconnect with good friends that you may have lost touch with by reaching out over the phone, or sending an e-mail.
Let’s not forget the power of our furry friends. Pets have long been known to aid in the longevity of good health with their endless supply of unconditional love. Animals can give us a feeling of importance and take our focus off of problems for a while. They help us lighten up and release stress.
So, the next time you are looking for that magic vitamin, take a friend out to lunch or play catch with your pet, it will do a body good.
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Online Meditation Classes
October 4th, 2011 // 12:21 am @ marla
Online Meditation Courses Now Available!
This 8 week online meditation class will teach you how to meditate, release stress and connect with your spirit. Learn to trust your intuition and bring your goals into reality. This course is designed for all levels; whether this is your first time meditating, or if you are an experienced yogi. This course is helpful for heart patients, executives, busy moms, and anyone who wants to live a well balanced life. Meditation is a great way to keep stress and anger in control.
Sign up for a free class below!
Click here to get more information:
8 Week Meditation Course
1. Learn the Basics of Meditation
2. Develop Your Inner Guidance
3. Forgiveness
4. Staying Balanced
5. Releasing Stress
6. Build Up Your Self Esteem
7. Bringing Your Goals into Reality
8. Develop Your Intuition
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How to Meditate For Beginners
May 4th, 2011 // 8:07 pm @ marla
Medit
ation is one of the best ways to change how your mind operates. When you are carrying too much emotional baggage, this keeps you out of your element. By simply putting yourself in a relaxing trance you are able to get rid of these negative vibes and begin to feel and live better. You can improve your mood and make your day better. But most people do not have any idea how to meditate.
The good news is there are meditation CDs that can help introduce meditation exercises. This will make way for a fast start up to the practice of relaxation. Although seasoned individuals can meditate easily, beginners can have a hard time reaching that level of relaxation that will be enough to alleviate negativity. Meditation for beginners CD can facilitate the learning process of this very helpful practice.
You can maximize your meditation if you can go deeper in your trance. This is where online meditation courses can help you. If you are 
not used to it all you can easily get distracted or have unfocused thoughts. This can affect the quality of your meditation. To have a better experience you might want to learn some techniques how to do it better. By taking the online courses, you will have everything you need to know to meditate, as well as being able to ask questions and refer to your handouts.
There are meditation CDs that are directed towards some very specific issues in your life. If you want to lose weight there are meditation materials that can help you go to that direction. If you want to have more self confidence or you want to win over insomnia there are also meditation CDs for that.
In the past when you want to try out meditation there are no accessible materials that can give a fast introduction to mediation for dummies. Today you can easily secure the best meditation CD to help you learn the basics and be on your way to practice effective meditation. This easy introduction to the world of mediation makes this a very attractive option for many to improve the quality of their lives and be free of its many inhibitions.
Or if you want a direct approach to learning meditation, try the online meditation classes and connect to your mind, body and spirit.
Explore the benefits of meditation and change your life forever!
Dr. Marla
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Mind Over Matters April 21st, 2011
April 15th, 2011 // 12:55 am @ marla
The Alamo-Danville Newcomers Club
The Newcomers Club-Nurturing Female Relationships
Today’s topic is the Alamo-Danville Newcomers Club, in Danville California and we will discuss the importance of nurturing new friendships when moving to a new city. We will discuss ways to adjust to a new environment by joining organizations such as the Newcomers Club hosted by Dr. Marla Sloane, Mind Over Matters, on the Voice America Variety Channel, Thursday, April 21st at 1:00 PST.
Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences. One of the best things a woman can do for her health is to nurture her relationships with girlfriends and engage with members of the community. This creates an overall sense of belonging and as a result can give your self-esteem a boost. 
Nurturing female relationships helps combat depression too.
All of the Newcomer Clubs evolve according to the members’ interests, which makes each club unique. The activities of the Newcomer’s Club can include a book club, wine tasting, golf, art group, international group, movies, canasta, bridge, euchre, mah jong, bowling, recipe exchange, San Francisco trips, couples activities, special events, philanthropy & volunteer opportunities.
The Newcomers Club welcomes women who are new to the area to join, but also welcomes women who are lo
ng-time residents. It is interesting to learn that one can find a Newcomers Club across the United States from California to New Jersey as well as across the world from Canada or England to China or Bangladesh. You are never too far to find a friend.
Women need to spend time with friends and evidently, that is very good for one’s health. Spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.
There is a tendency to think that when we are working out, we are doing something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged—not true. In fact, failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking!
Alamo-Danville Newcomers Club 
P.O. Box 2843
Danville, CA 94526
Phone: (925) 775-3233
E-mail: alamodanvillenewcomers@yahoo.com
Visit: www.alamodanvillenewcomers.com
Visit: www.newcomersclub.com
April 21st, 2011, Featuring
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